Speak with Intention

We reach more people today with our words than I think has ever happened in history. We write things online (like blogs), answer comments on Facebook or other social media sites and some even do videos or podcasts. Every word we speak needs to be intentionally kind and helpful. If the purpose of what we are saying is to tear someone down then we are not being a good representative of Christ. Can you imagine Christ speaking on a podcast and assassinating someone’s character for an hour, then ending with “God bless you.” We may not always be aware of who may read or hear our words, but we need to take into consideration that a lost world is listening and reading and also judging whether we are living up to the standard that we say we believe in. I think, actually I know from personal experience, that when someone says something unkind to me, I remember it a lot longer than the kind words that were spoken. I don’t know why that is, but I do know that if I intentionally purpose to say kind things to others, then they won’t have unkind words from me to ponder on and remember, hurting them for who knows how long after I have forgotten what I said. Be the one who lifts up, the one who helps others make it through a hard day, the one who puts a smile on someone’s face. The only people whom I can remember Jesus berating in the Bible are the Pharisees; everyone else, every single sinner, He was kind to, taking the time to say exactly the words they needed to hear. (The Pharisees needed to hear what He was saying, too, because He was trying to get them to understand God’s love and not just His law.) So, I pray that as you go through the day, you will make it a goal to speak with the intention of being a good representative of Christ, both in your spoken and written words. Speak what is truthful in love, speak what is kind, speak what is helpful. You will feel better at the end of the day, and so will your audience.

Words That Build

Have you ever been a representative for someone or something? When you belong to a group of people, or you represent someone, what you say and how you say it matters. Anything you say is a reflection of the person or thing you’re representing.

As Christians, we are representatives for Jesus. Paul says that we are ambassadors or representatives of Christ because He is no longer physically on earth ministering to people (2 Corinthians 5:20). Instead Jesus is working through His people to accomplish what He wants done on earth.

Since everything we say and do is a representation of Jesus, we need to choose our words wisely. When we use words to gossip and slander, hurt or damage—we don’t represent Jesus’ heart and character. But when our words are used to encourage someone, what we say has a lot of potential for good. 

You’re probably familiar with the power words can have. Has someone ever said something to you that was painful? Or can you remember the last time someone complimented you? You might still remember how each of those situations made you feel.

You might not have been able to control what was said to you, but you can control what you say to others. So take a few moments to think about the things you’ve said recently. Is there anything you’ve said that you need to seek forgiveness for? Choose today to represent Christ and His character by intentionally speaking words that are good and helpful.

My Words

This morning in my devotional, God was dealing with me about my words, particularly the words I use with my spouse. I am very careful to choose my words with people whom I don’t know well or those I want to make a good impression on. But with my husband, I just say what I think and I am not always kind.

For example, when we went to the beach, Harry brought along a huge fishing cooler. Of course, he had put it into the back of the SUV and I didn’t even see it until we arrived. I was actually shocked to see it there and asked him why he would bring it, full of his clothes like a weird suitcase. He said he brought it to take to the beach with us. Well, I exploded, mostly from embarrassment at the laughable idea of him dragging that across the beach with us. Nevertheless, he took his clothes out of it and packed it daily with his towels and other things he wanted to take along to the shore. That thing is heavy even empty, so he only carried it a short ways and then truly had to drag it across the sand. I was berating and not at all kind as I followed him to the place where our daughter and her family had set up chairs and an umbrella. Then, he pointed out that he as dragging it in front of me and making a smooth path for me to walk across the sand so I would not fall. How foolish I felt about all of my unkind words! I had chosen to speak without thinking and to express my honest frustration instead of noticing his commitment to safeguarding me.

We didn’t really argue about the whole cooler thing, but I was not happy and I am sure that everyone knew it because I don’t hide my feelings well. If only I had seen Harry’s genuine acts of kindness and shared kind and appreciative words with him! They would have cheered both of us up!

I don’t mean to have a “deceitful tongue” but sometimes I confess that I do not tell the entire truth. I make excuses that I am doing it for the benefit of the other person because I don’t want to offend them. What I am really doing is saving face for myself. God wants me to be completely honest if I am going to say anything to others. Or, the other choice is to just be quiet! I don’t want to go around being deceitful, then the other person finds out what I was really thinking (or others tell them the whole truth), and they are crushed because I wasn’t honest to begin with. God is honest with me. He tells me when and how I need to change. He doesn’t mince words or tiptoe around so He doesn’t offend me because He has my best interests at heart. If that is my real motive, can I do any less towards others?

Words matter. They show the condition of my heart and places that are raw inside me and need to be healed and changed. Sometimes, they show what I am really feeling and sometimes they show a parody of what I feel because I don’t want to be offensive. I end up offending anyway more often than not, so my plan to not do so doesn’t usually work out for me. Kind words…gentle words…think before I speak and speak as the Spirit leads. My lesson for today, and I hope that it helps you, too.